tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8848082798225294725.post3263982662205779971..comments2023-11-03T06:00:59.451-04:00Comments on Muse in Wooden Shoes: The FearMals86http://www.blogger.com/profile/09757305840611623427noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8848082798225294725.post-24615866080505007832010-01-29T17:52:36.243-05:002010-01-29T17:52:36.243-05:00That is a very sad story and one I had not heard a...That is a very sad story and one I had not heard about in our press. Virginia Tech does seem to have more than its fair share of horrible luck.<br /><br />I guess some men are rightly afraid of being mugged, which is a more frequent occurrence than attacks on women I believe. It doesn't compare to this, but I was myself the victim of a violent sexual assault by a stranger in a park (in broad daylight) when I was 17, the day before a set of important school exams. I got away when he was disturbed by people out walking their dog, and - perhaps strangely - have felt stronger ever since, rather than more fearful about going out on my own. I guess I have always reckoned that lightning is unlikely to strike twice, and touch wood, it hasn't.Vanessahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11847145282522572183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8848082798225294725.post-34114516659810113002010-01-28T10:40:38.622-05:002010-01-28T10:40:38.622-05:00I remember having a conversation with a college bo...I remember having a conversation with a college boyfriend about "The Fear"-- I had been grabbed from behind on the street (on the behind) and while completely unharmed, I was thoroughly shaken. I remember saying to him, "how would you like it?" He said, "You know, I would kind of like it if some girl let me know I had cute buns on the street." (!!!!!!) I then proceeded to explain to him that this did not feel like a playful pat on the rear-- imagine an eight-foot rugby player running up from behind and grabbing one's ass-- and not gently either-- that's what it felt like to me. Men don't get "The Fear" very often. (Or at least 20-year-olds don't-- men DO grow up...)<br /><br />it is sad, and it is scary. But you're right-- teaching our children and ourselves to be careful and to have self-respect is what we can do, as well as look out for one another. As for that young women, she's in a better place now.The Left Coast Nosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10102549295051352579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8848082798225294725.post-79019212150501168332010-01-28T02:30:00.360-05:002010-01-28T02:30:00.360-05:00Its 2010 and women and children still get treated ...Its 2010 and women and children still get treated like this. <br />Shocking.lady jickyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09013352537776588166noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8848082798225294725.post-92204842879359974132010-01-27T21:35:45.265-05:002010-01-27T21:35:45.265-05:00I know what you mean about The Fear and horror tha...I know what you mean about The Fear and horror that you feel for what might have happened to these poor girls after they go missing. When Natalie Holloway disappeared, I always thought that best possible outcome for her was that they killed her that night. Anything else was too gruesome to think about - and yet, sadly, thousands of young women disappear in this country, on vacations to other countries, and on cruises every year and are swallowed up by the horror of human trafficking. <br /><br />Why isn't this a bigger issue? All over the world, women and children are the victims of unspeakable violence and we mostly accept it as "just the way things are". Is the problem unsolvable? Is a matter of priorities? Or a matter of it being to ugly to acknowledge, so we mostly keep our heads in the sand until something like this briefly wakes us up? <br /><br />I don't know what the answer is, but I'm tired of praying that maybe some poor girl's death was at least quick.Cynthiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16521160592881037725noreply@blogger.com